Monday, August 6, 2012
Current Update-Sorry Guys.
Hey guys, to those of you who read this blog I'm sorry. My anxiety is so out of whack lately I'm not sure if I can blog about it for a while. I've got a lot of things going on right now, and I'm trying to fight with myself on all of them. It's hard, and sometimes I think I'm one of the most messed up people in the world, but somehow; beit loving friends and family or some strength I don't know I have...I get through the rough patches. Today was one, and it'll be awhile before I'm ready to write. Thank you for being patient.
Friday, August 3, 2012
Intermission
Hey guys this isn't an official post or anything, but I checked this morning and realized I'm close to 100 views. Now I know this may not seem like a lot, but to me it means so much. Thank you to anyone who has been reading this blog. It just started out as a way to try and release all of the stuff I went through, but now I know that people are reading it and it just makes me feel amazing. I hope I am helping anyone who is going through this and if you are, please shoot me a message I'd love to hear from you. Thank you again for anyone who is reading.
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Sunday, July 29, 2012
Off of One's Rocker
Getting busy with school starting soon. Will try and update regularly, but please don't hate if I can't!!!
Some heavy stuff in this chapter. Please don't take offense!
I had hit rock bottom officially. My mom had come to me and told me I needed to stop. She cried. I had been worrying her so much and I hadn't even noticed, my father too. While he didnt understand the anxiety, he knew how much it was affecting me, and I hadnt noticed any of this. How selfish had I been to not see any of this??? Pretty selfish. I made myself a promise, I was going to change, no matter how long it took.
First step. One night home alone consisting of four hours. I'm not one to say I've had a hard life. But that night, was one of the hardest nights of my life. I cleaned the house from top to bottom, did four loads of laundry, all the while singing at the top of my lungs. I'd begun to learn that silence was one of the worst triggers. I had saved up a bunch of my money and gone and bought myself a new Ipod and loaded it with tons of music, (mostly Disney!!!) and whenever I could you could find me blasting it until there was ringing in my ears. Now I'm well aware that that's definitely not good for you, but it was one of the few ways I could cope. Something about singing, be it good or bad, (I can't carry a tune in a bucket) was a release. Especially loudly, it made me feel like I was getting some of the tension out of my body. Every once in a while, I still felt a need to do something, almost bad. Even to this day, when I have bad awful, crappy days, I imagine myself coming home and throwing plates against a wall. It's weird I know, but the thought of it was another type of release, I've never actually done it, but thinking about it as oddly empowering. I made dinner, dessert, and even had time to do homework that wasnt due for at least a week. It was tiring and terrifying, but I did it. I did it. I'd taken the first step, although, I guess if I'm being completely honest, which I'm trying to, it truly wasnt a step. It was stopping. I'd stopped running and was confronting it like I needed to.
Step two. Dinner with friends. Another honesty moment, I hadn't left the house to do something social in over three months. Three months! Like I'd said before, I was never one for huge social situations, but I'd usually be able to find something to do about every three weeks give or take. I invited two of my friends to go to Eat N Park (we're a small town! That's what we do for fun!!! Don't judge us!!!) My one friend spent the entire dinner complaining about her younger sister, her father, and things that were happening at church. I could feel myself getting tense again. It felt like she was dealing with all these stupid little problems, while I was having a breakdown. My other friend didnt say anything, but she was playing with a band aid on her finger. I asked her what happened, becaue she's normally not the type to be clumsy. She kind of blushed and hem hawed, but eventually said she had been cooking and slipped with a kitchen knife. I laughed and teased, because I've always been the clumsy one, not her. My other friend slams her spoon down on the table, nudges me in the ribs and in a fake theatrical whisper goes 'No, she's cutting herself, she can't handle the pressures of high school and hates herself. Come on admit it!' My eyes probably got so big they could have rolled onto the table and even Smarty (That's how I'm going to refer to her from now on, because the girl is truly a genius) noticed my reaction. My stomach dropped and I felt the angriest I'd felt in years.
How could she joke about something like that? How could she not know? Houw could she not see that I was truly having a crisis. I'd never told her because she's very religious. I mean VERY religious. If I'd told her she'd have excorcised me on the spot. I often asked her how she could have such a strong faith in her religion and she replied because she believed in God. Don't get me wrong. So do I. But sometimes things happen to people that I can't always see him as a merciful being. Why would have made such wack jobs like me? Or mass murderers? One of my biggest concerns with religion lay within my family. About two years before this my uncle had been diagnosed with ALS, or Lou Gherigs disease. If any of you have seen it, it's a wasting disease that takes a person slowly with no cure. You simply have to wait for them to die. My cousin was twelve when he was diagnosed. He died when she was fourteen. Fourteen. Her father was her idol and she loved him more than air itself. I asked myself after that, why would a merciful being take a girl's father away during the most tumultous time of her life??? (I'm sorry. I'm ranting and I digress.)
In those few seconds sitting in an Eat N Park booth, I learned that this was not how a friendship was supposed to be. I shouldnt have been afraid to tell her because of her reaction. If she was truly my friend she would have been one of the first people I'd told, and she'd have helped me through it. That hadn't happened. So something had to change. And it looked like it was me.
Some heavy stuff in this chapter. Please don't take offense!
I had hit rock bottom officially. My mom had come to me and told me I needed to stop. She cried. I had been worrying her so much and I hadn't even noticed, my father too. While he didnt understand the anxiety, he knew how much it was affecting me, and I hadnt noticed any of this. How selfish had I been to not see any of this??? Pretty selfish. I made myself a promise, I was going to change, no matter how long it took.
First step. One night home alone consisting of four hours. I'm not one to say I've had a hard life. But that night, was one of the hardest nights of my life. I cleaned the house from top to bottom, did four loads of laundry, all the while singing at the top of my lungs. I'd begun to learn that silence was one of the worst triggers. I had saved up a bunch of my money and gone and bought myself a new Ipod and loaded it with tons of music, (mostly Disney!!!) and whenever I could you could find me blasting it until there was ringing in my ears. Now I'm well aware that that's definitely not good for you, but it was one of the few ways I could cope. Something about singing, be it good or bad, (I can't carry a tune in a bucket) was a release. Especially loudly, it made me feel like I was getting some of the tension out of my body. Every once in a while, I still felt a need to do something, almost bad. Even to this day, when I have bad awful, crappy days, I imagine myself coming home and throwing plates against a wall. It's weird I know, but the thought of it was another type of release, I've never actually done it, but thinking about it as oddly empowering. I made dinner, dessert, and even had time to do homework that wasnt due for at least a week. It was tiring and terrifying, but I did it. I did it. I'd taken the first step, although, I guess if I'm being completely honest, which I'm trying to, it truly wasnt a step. It was stopping. I'd stopped running and was confronting it like I needed to.
Step two. Dinner with friends. Another honesty moment, I hadn't left the house to do something social in over three months. Three months! Like I'd said before, I was never one for huge social situations, but I'd usually be able to find something to do about every three weeks give or take. I invited two of my friends to go to Eat N Park (we're a small town! That's what we do for fun!!! Don't judge us!!!) My one friend spent the entire dinner complaining about her younger sister, her father, and things that were happening at church. I could feel myself getting tense again. It felt like she was dealing with all these stupid little problems, while I was having a breakdown. My other friend didnt say anything, but she was playing with a band aid on her finger. I asked her what happened, becaue she's normally not the type to be clumsy. She kind of blushed and hem hawed, but eventually said she had been cooking and slipped with a kitchen knife. I laughed and teased, because I've always been the clumsy one, not her. My other friend slams her spoon down on the table, nudges me in the ribs and in a fake theatrical whisper goes 'No, she's cutting herself, she can't handle the pressures of high school and hates herself. Come on admit it!' My eyes probably got so big they could have rolled onto the table and even Smarty (That's how I'm going to refer to her from now on, because the girl is truly a genius) noticed my reaction. My stomach dropped and I felt the angriest I'd felt in years.
How could she joke about something like that? How could she not know? Houw could she not see that I was truly having a crisis. I'd never told her because she's very religious. I mean VERY religious. If I'd told her she'd have excorcised me on the spot. I often asked her how she could have such a strong faith in her religion and she replied because she believed in God. Don't get me wrong. So do I. But sometimes things happen to people that I can't always see him as a merciful being. Why would have made such wack jobs like me? Or mass murderers? One of my biggest concerns with religion lay within my family. About two years before this my uncle had been diagnosed with ALS, or Lou Gherigs disease. If any of you have seen it, it's a wasting disease that takes a person slowly with no cure. You simply have to wait for them to die. My cousin was twelve when he was diagnosed. He died when she was fourteen. Fourteen. Her father was her idol and she loved him more than air itself. I asked myself after that, why would a merciful being take a girl's father away during the most tumultous time of her life??? (I'm sorry. I'm ranting and I digress.)
In those few seconds sitting in an Eat N Park booth, I learned that this was not how a friendship was supposed to be. I shouldnt have been afraid to tell her because of her reaction. If she was truly my friend she would have been one of the first people I'd told, and she'd have helped me through it. That hadn't happened. So something had to change. And it looked like it was me.
Tuesday, July 24, 2012
Mad as A March Hare
Hello again! Sorry about the long delay, had a super busy week...Plus, last weeks entry was about a piece of anxiety I have yet to let go of and it threw me out of whack fo a few days. That's one of the things about anxiety, sometimes, you can be feeling A okay, tip top, and then suddenly it can come back in one felt swoop.
It was still impossible for me to be alone. I hated when my parents worked, and they both did often. I still would go with my mom to work and hang out at the library, but I was doing something I'd always done. I was ignoring. I was running from it. And I wasnt dealing with it, which was what needed to be done. I honestly didnt have the courage to face it. I was doing everything in my power to run from it, but I didnt realize I needed to meet it face on, that running was making me exhausted. I couldnt help it though I was afraid that if I faced it, I would find some terrible thing wrong with me. I had researched so many mental disorders at that point, i was afraid of even going to a doctor to talk about it. I asked my mom if she would let me get on medicine, but the therapist was adamant against it. She told me it was all in my head and I didnt need medicine, I just needed to come to terms with whatever was setting me off.
At this point, I felt certifiably insane. You could lock me up in Bedlam and I would agree with you that I needed to be there. Everything was falling apart, and I couldnt keep my grip on things. I was lying to my friends, telling them I was fine, nothing was wrong. My grades were balancing out but they were still the worst I'd ever had, teetering on Cs and I still was only sleeping for about a few hours every night, which was making me irritable and boarish, and I would repeat this day after day after day...
Finally my mom sat me down. I needed to stop the routine. I needed to break the shell and get free. I needed to hang out with my friends again and get out of the house. This was only the first step though, something I wasn't prepared for.
It was still impossible for me to be alone. I hated when my parents worked, and they both did often. I still would go with my mom to work and hang out at the library, but I was doing something I'd always done. I was ignoring. I was running from it. And I wasnt dealing with it, which was what needed to be done. I honestly didnt have the courage to face it. I was doing everything in my power to run from it, but I didnt realize I needed to meet it face on, that running was making me exhausted. I couldnt help it though I was afraid that if I faced it, I would find some terrible thing wrong with me. I had researched so many mental disorders at that point, i was afraid of even going to a doctor to talk about it. I asked my mom if she would let me get on medicine, but the therapist was adamant against it. She told me it was all in my head and I didnt need medicine, I just needed to come to terms with whatever was setting me off.
At this point, I felt certifiably insane. You could lock me up in Bedlam and I would agree with you that I needed to be there. Everything was falling apart, and I couldnt keep my grip on things. I was lying to my friends, telling them I was fine, nothing was wrong. My grades were balancing out but they were still the worst I'd ever had, teetering on Cs and I still was only sleeping for about a few hours every night, which was making me irritable and boarish, and I would repeat this day after day after day...
Finally my mom sat me down. I needed to stop the routine. I needed to break the shell and get free. I needed to hang out with my friends again and get out of the house. This was only the first step though, something I wasn't prepared for.
Saturday, July 14, 2012
ANXIETY
The info only says 'I haven't reached Y yet.'
This is how it feels >.<
Friday, July 13, 2012
Out Of One's Mind
Because of my insane need to be reliable, I worked harder at my school work, but it felt like I wasnt getting anywhere. It constantly felt like I was running running running always all the time with no time to breathe. During one of my math classes, my teacher, normally an awesome guy, showed us a movie called A Beautiful Mind. If anyone has seen it and loves it, I'm sorry, but this movie, to this day, still. Scares. Me. Don't get me wrong, as the story went on I was totally engaged in it. If you've never seen it, it tells the story of John Nash, the famous mathmetician who suffered from schizophrenia. However, my teacher did not tell us about that part of the movie. And so, if i'm spoiling this for anyone I'm sorry. When you find out that his best friend, neice, and boss are all figments of his imagination, I literally left the room in tears. Something about it had touched me so deeply there were no words to describe.
My religous friend, the on I spoke about earlier became so fascinated in schizophrenia at this point, it became disgusting. She started reading books about it, researching cases online and jokingly diagnosing people we knew with it. What she didnt know though was that I thought I had. I had been researching it a little as well and found out that it usually struck girls in their late teens and it often started with a crippling anxiety.Could I be that crazy that the people I took comfort in were figments of my imagination? It honestly felt like the piece of my brain that rationalized, was gone. Whatever scared me, frightened me or put me on edge was automatically real. The cutting, the suicide, th schizophrenia, there was no way to convince myeslf I didnt have all of these things wrong with me. I suddenly had an intense fear of the people I loved not being real and to be honest, that was one of the worst ones, worse than the cutting and any other nagging fears I had felt. This one. This one was the bane of my existence and even to this day it haunts me. I will wake up in the middle of the night and for a few seconds feel absolute terror. Here was something I couldnt deal with. I had convinced myself the anxiety was from something i was doing, and if I figured it out, I could fix it. It had yet to occur to me that it might be me. Just me. Something wrong with me. If it was schizophrenia, that was somethin I couldnt fight and that scared me. I didnt tell the therapist. She did nothing for me. I'm sure it was my inability to open up to her like you're supposed to, but I couldnt bring myself to do it. Why should I let this stranger who had never known me until now judge my sanity?
As this all went around in my head, my friends and I were still growing more and more distant. I could go an entire lunch hour without speaking to anyone at my table and no one seemed to notice it. I mean i've always been quiet, and if I'm reading you'd better not disturb me, but something about this felt...wrong. Shouldnt the people I called my closest friends know that something was seriously wrong??? I began asking myself this question, a lot and getting answers I didnt want. I was tired of this. Tired of being ignored...but I didnt think I had the courage to stand up for myself, especially now, when I was feeling so tired and worn out.
My religous friend, the on I spoke about earlier became so fascinated in schizophrenia at this point, it became disgusting. She started reading books about it, researching cases online and jokingly diagnosing people we knew with it. What she didnt know though was that I thought I had. I had been researching it a little as well and found out that it usually struck girls in their late teens and it often started with a crippling anxiety.Could I be that crazy that the people I took comfort in were figments of my imagination? It honestly felt like the piece of my brain that rationalized, was gone. Whatever scared me, frightened me or put me on edge was automatically real. The cutting, the suicide, th schizophrenia, there was no way to convince myeslf I didnt have all of these things wrong with me. I suddenly had an intense fear of the people I loved not being real and to be honest, that was one of the worst ones, worse than the cutting and any other nagging fears I had felt. This one. This one was the bane of my existence and even to this day it haunts me. I will wake up in the middle of the night and for a few seconds feel absolute terror. Here was something I couldnt deal with. I had convinced myself the anxiety was from something i was doing, and if I figured it out, I could fix it. It had yet to occur to me that it might be me. Just me. Something wrong with me. If it was schizophrenia, that was somethin I couldnt fight and that scared me. I didnt tell the therapist. She did nothing for me. I'm sure it was my inability to open up to her like you're supposed to, but I couldnt bring myself to do it. Why should I let this stranger who had never known me until now judge my sanity?
As this all went around in my head, my friends and I were still growing more and more distant. I could go an entire lunch hour without speaking to anyone at my table and no one seemed to notice it. I mean i've always been quiet, and if I'm reading you'd better not disturb me, but something about this felt...wrong. Shouldnt the people I called my closest friends know that something was seriously wrong??? I began asking myself this question, a lot and getting answers I didnt want. I was tired of this. Tired of being ignored...but I didnt think I had the courage to stand up for myself, especially now, when I was feeling so tired and worn out.
Friday, July 6, 2012
Mad As a Hatter
Hi again! If anyone has ever experienced anything like this I'd love to hear from you. Please shoot me a message, I'd like to hear from someone who has dealt with this or is dealing with it now.
There's a movie with Sandra Bullock, called 28 Days in which her therapist tells a group of addicts this little piece of wisdom “Folks, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” I like this quote because it reminds me of that time in my life. I would get up, be afraid of myself and my anxiety, do the exact same thing I always did, went to school, came home, struggled with focusing on my homework and then, at one of my lowest points I couldnt be alone in the house. I would go with my mom to to work, and stay in the library next door until it was time for us to go home. Her boss was so nice about it after she gently tried to explain what was going on. I was aware that she had to start telling people about it, to explain my irrational and often erratic behavior, but I was still so embarassed with myself, that I couldnt bring myself to tell anyone besides my mom. I began getting more and more desperate, and even the therapist began to notice it. She then began talking to me about suicide. Why people do it, stuff like that.
I left the therapist's office a pale and shaking wreck that day, only to come home and tell my mom I was scared I was going to commit suicide. I was terrifed that I had thought about the possibility, but once an idea is in your head, put there by someone else, it's hard to get rid of. We were supposed to be visiting family members and I was supposed to be down in my room getting ready Instead, I found myself staring at my reflection in the mirror, wondering how I would 'off myself' as I called it. I couldnt even bear the thought of thinking suicide in my head so I had to use all these stupid code names. I am such a wuss, I knew I couldnt do anything that involved severe pain, so that took out a lot of my options. My mom's family, myself included, suffer from severe migraines, and frequent headaches, so we keep a lot of Tylenol in the house. I guess I could do that. My mom called me up from my room and I was dressed and ready, but once again, she knew there was something wrong. I promised her I would tell her after dinner and she agreed, making me promise to fess up. I nodded.
Well we both kept to our word, because I was slowly coming to terms that I felt a lot better once these things were out in the open instead of bottled up inside of me. I admitted to her that I'd thought about taking an overdose of Tylenol and she simply shook her head at me. Once again, she knew exactly what to say and her words were, I paraphrase 'Do you known thats the least likely way to kill yourself? Most times it doesnt work. You'd probably wake up in a pile of your own vomit. That'd be attractive.' She shocked me into laughing until I cried and I felt better. She always had a way of doing that. Was I on the verge of better? Not yet. It was certainly going to take me a long time to get there. I just wasnt prepared for how long, or how hard it was going to be.
There's a movie with Sandra Bullock, called 28 Days in which her therapist tells a group of addicts this little piece of wisdom “Folks, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” I like this quote because it reminds me of that time in my life. I would get up, be afraid of myself and my anxiety, do the exact same thing I always did, went to school, came home, struggled with focusing on my homework and then, at one of my lowest points I couldnt be alone in the house. I would go with my mom to to work, and stay in the library next door until it was time for us to go home. Her boss was so nice about it after she gently tried to explain what was going on. I was aware that she had to start telling people about it, to explain my irrational and often erratic behavior, but I was still so embarassed with myself, that I couldnt bring myself to tell anyone besides my mom. I began getting more and more desperate, and even the therapist began to notice it. She then began talking to me about suicide. Why people do it, stuff like that.
I left the therapist's office a pale and shaking wreck that day, only to come home and tell my mom I was scared I was going to commit suicide. I was terrifed that I had thought about the possibility, but once an idea is in your head, put there by someone else, it's hard to get rid of. We were supposed to be visiting family members and I was supposed to be down in my room getting ready Instead, I found myself staring at my reflection in the mirror, wondering how I would 'off myself' as I called it. I couldnt even bear the thought of thinking suicide in my head so I had to use all these stupid code names. I am such a wuss, I knew I couldnt do anything that involved severe pain, so that took out a lot of my options. My mom's family, myself included, suffer from severe migraines, and frequent headaches, so we keep a lot of Tylenol in the house. I guess I could do that. My mom called me up from my room and I was dressed and ready, but once again, she knew there was something wrong. I promised her I would tell her after dinner and she agreed, making me promise to fess up. I nodded.
Well we both kept to our word, because I was slowly coming to terms that I felt a lot better once these things were out in the open instead of bottled up inside of me. I admitted to her that I'd thought about taking an overdose of Tylenol and she simply shook her head at me. Once again, she knew exactly what to say and her words were, I paraphrase 'Do you known thats the least likely way to kill yourself? Most times it doesnt work. You'd probably wake up in a pile of your own vomit. That'd be attractive.' She shocked me into laughing until I cried and I felt better. She always had a way of doing that. Was I on the verge of better? Not yet. It was certainly going to take me a long time to get there. I just wasnt prepared for how long, or how hard it was going to be.
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